Over thinking things is basically something I am very good at, but there are times when that personality flaw comes in handy.
I have a hard time saying no, and maybe not in the way that you think. I say no all the time. “No I can’t go out tonight, homework to get done,” “No I shouldn’t have that extra cookie,” but there are times when it is hard to say no — When the question presents itself as an opportunity.
Working your way through life can seem like strategic planning. Picking the right job, volunteering your time and being involved with extra curricular activities, but eventually you can get overloaded.
I should know……
I think it was about this time last year I had to revisit how I was spending my time. I had worked really hard to branch out, but instead of feeling good about my achievements I was feeling stressed. After some deep reflection I had realized that I took on all the extra tasks for the wrong reason.
As much I loved being a part of certain organizations and activities I wasn’t doing it because I really wanted to. I started saying yes and even seeking out opportunities for growth, because I thought it would be good for my professional development.
In some cases this is true. Being involved is a good thing, but it still has to be for the right reasons. I found that I was doing not only myself but the people I was involved in a disservice.
I could see the level of dedication and enthusiasm that these people had for they were doing and my heart just wasn’t it. What I thought would be beneficial for me turned out to be stressful.
The hardest part for me was walking away. I felt really bad. I don’t like to go back on things that I have promised to do, but there comes a time when you have to listen to your gut. Eventually I was able to feel better about my decisions, but it took some time.
I think it’s important to reevaluate your life every once and while and see if the direction you are headed in is the right one. It can be hard to prioritize how and where you spend your time, especially when it seems so beneficial, but it has to be looked at with the bigger picture.